Bath-Houses-Saunas-Men’sClubs
They come in many shapes and sizes. I have only ever been in 2 individual establishments in my whole life. I started early. I was only 20 when I went to my first bathhouse.
I have never been to one in a big city. Always dreamed of it. Always thought it would be more fun and a lot more to digest.
In my small city of 414,000 people in the surrounding area makes it a small community. It is hardly big enough for a good mix of people. It is hard to really go without seeing the same people over and over again. It is a city that is, what’s the word, has a negative attitude towards sex, amongst the gay community.
When you visit the social media hookup sites, such as Manhunt, Squirt, Grindr, barebackrt, amongst others you see a lot of men. However, you also see a trend of men putting off hooking up with status lines such as,” not into hookups”, “here for friends”, ” don’t message me if you are this and this and this”, “must have a face pic to chat”. I do not go to the bars nearly as much as I use too. When I go, about once a year, pride, hween or another special event YOU always see men on their grindr trying to see who is there. You always see manhunt men hanging with other likeminded, built men…
The days of anonymous sex are nearly dead. That is unless you go to a bathhouse.
I have found that hookup sites use to be very anonymous and hardly contained face pictures and men still found a way to hookup. Gee, even in the days of phone line chat rooms and message boards men found a way to hook up.
Now men seem to only hookup anonymously if they happen to pre-meet online then go to a public place. Men want an instantaneous, sure thing.
The younger generation who have has always thrown caution to the wind and posted everything about themselves online soon made us older guys want to catch up and play the young mans game. Hooking up then became a thing of shame. With the previously mentioned status lines men say they are not hooking up, or not here for sex but indeed we are all there for a connection. Whether you are there to meet someone or to fuck, at some point you will have sex, so if it takes you 20mins or 2days or 2weeks to get the nerve to meet someone you still are so whats with the “slut shaming”?
SO this brings us to the bathhouses. In my city there have only ever been 2 baths. Neither of them operated at the same time of each other. One was open for 20years or so and closed then the second one opened.
When I first discovered the first bathhouse it was called “The APPLE Sauna”. *NAME CHANGED TO PROTECT IDENTITY.
It was tucked away into an old building with a front door, sidewalk entrance. No sign to distinguish it from any other business. It had odd operating hours and was fitting in nicely into the popular streetscape.
I made my first appearance there with hesitation. So unsure what to expect. I knew the general idea and what went on there.
APPLE was stuck in the past. It looked like something out of old Hollywood. A hospital pale green paint job, old 70’s male porn star model pictures in frames on the walls combined with roman’esq decor. Painted roman columns, roman bust forms etc. It was eerily creepy. It was set up like this: walk in front door, came to a gated window, something you would see in a casino, an older man who would greet you ask what he could do for you, you paid, buzzed you in, you walked up a few stairs to a tv lounge area, several seats, magazine racks, and a few private rooms, then a set of stairs which let downstairs where lockers, a sauna*big enough for maybe 4 people and showers. It was very dark and claustrophobic.
It was never busy there. I think the most men I saw at any given time was 5. Always older men. I did have a couple guys my age show up. It was always awkward as men who follow you around. The magazines were always old, from the 80s early 90s.
I am unsure how often I was there but I would say maybe 10times.
I do have a sad story about my first ever visit. But that is another post.
The second bathhouse that opened was called “SEASTARS” *NAME CHANGED TO PROTECT IDENTITY. It was on a busy main street in our city. A little run down but an up and coming street. It was very popular in the days and it was always busy when I was there and always a good time. It had a sauna, a hot tub and lots of porn playing as well as a dark room to play in. It was small. You could easily find 20-30guys there on a busy night at one time. For a small location it seemed busy as you were always in the way of some guy wanting to walk by. The had a main floor only for awhile which had lockers and rooms. It was dimly lite and provided a horny atmosphere.
This second bathhouse soon grew in popularity and would soon expand to the bottom floor and incorporate more rooms and lockers, a common area with tvs as well as a large dark room with wrought iron cage walls to provide a maze effect to the room which also had a sling area and a glory hole set up.
On a busy night you could have 5guys in the sauna fucking around, 3-6guys in the hot tub talking or groping each other, a few men in the small dark room and 10guys or more in the basement and 4-6guys at the sling. It was a good time…Red lights to find your way around following the moans and groans of horny fuckers.
This place had it’s ups and downs. It went from very busy to very slow. SEASTARS changed ownership 3times. Now it is hardly able to stay afloat relying on the gay bar across the street to keep it busy. The owner of the gay bar owns the bathhouse as well.
I am unsure how many men I met there but I met men of all walks of life. Hot men who are tall model built dream boats to the average chub. Twinks to Brick Shit Houses, Cumdumps to anal up tight snobs. Military men on course, Navy men who are in port!! Every sort goes there. There is no bathhouse type. If you are willing and horny, you will find him there. Of course, it would be hard to find that diamond in the rough of a man we are all looking for. We all wait for the newbie…We all chase him…We all want a taste.
This bathhouse has now been around so long it smells like mildew and seems like a health risk, it stinks, its soppy and the hot tub is questionable at best as an std stew(granted you can not catch an std but you could go home with a rash at the very least). The cedar planks that are in the sauna itself are blackened with sweat and semen that I would never sit on it directly. The wood must be 15years old if not older. The carpet has since been removed as that was so comprised it was like tile to walk on. The corners of the floors that meet the walls are stained…It is just gross. If you just want to go for fun, go when the lights are down and have a good stiff drink before you go.
The dark room is fun but be careful not to be stealthed. Many men will slide their cocks into your ass without even a mutter of a word…Men just assume that any ass there is free game for a breeding. I am sure that is the case in the bigger cities as well. I have seen many time a man bend over to suck and a man would walk up behind him and try to breed him.
I have never been in a big city bath house but from the pictures I have seen of the establishments it seems cleaner and more modern.
I love going to the bathhouse. The prices have gone up over the years and makes it less desirable to go but when the stars align and it’s a good night I am glad I went.
If you are a cocksucker and love cock down your throat then you will have a good time. If you are picky or serosorting then you could have a good time. It is hard to justify 25 for a locker for a 2-4hour stay….When no-one is there, the place smells and the porn is half good at best. Especially in the winter in the basement and ur cock can’t get hard due to the chill.
I tend to be the sort of man who goes for a few hours. I like to time it. I like to be there just before one busy time, stick it out and stay until the next group of men show up. If I get a room it gives me a moment to hide out if I do not care for the clientele and it allows me time to rest.
In a small city you always have your regulars. Sometimes it makes it more difficult to get laid as you are chasing the same guys. I can count off probably 10-15 core customers and at any given time when it is busy you have 5 of them. They can be a turn off as they seem to gravitate to each other to socialize. It is always a hive for HIV positive men have nowheres to go to have sex as they have been shamed in our small city and everyone seems to think they “know” people.
Sometimes you know who has HIV because people whisper to each other there. They seem to think they are doing you a favour by revealing someone else’s status like this.” Hey I saw you talking or chasing that guy, he has HIV, be careful.” It is sad that happens but at the same time one would be thankful as I have seen one particular man who is well known to have HIV easily and without caution or disclosure to others suck off unknowing men who are on the search for a blowjob. Little do they know a man with HIV has just done the deed. Even though I have never seen him top or bottom he is a cock hungry man who would go a lot. I would never play with him, again.*that is another story.
In our small city, people seem to make judgements on others by simply thinking they know you by other peoples word. If you chat to someone online be sure that that person has already asked his “friends” and his online chat buddies if they know you. It is such a shallow and simple community here. People slut shame you because when you clearly state that you want to find an anon hookup they simply chat to you to find out who you are then stop once they get a face pic. Just men being nosey. Sad state of affairs but that is how it is.
I am the type that likes little talk. I like action. If there is no action to be had I would rather sit in silence and enjoy myself. Porn playing, watching tv, or just admiring the older fit men who walk around with their cocks poking out of their towels.
I have made friends with a few of the workers. If you go often enough and you are the only one there sometimes the only thing to do is to talk to them.
I have been stone cold sober, buzzed, high(on pot only), and drunk there or even a combination. Sometimes it seemed like the only way to cope with the crowd.
I find it funny when I read some of the social media websites that have cruise listings for the bathhouse here in town. People post messages asking if it is busy there, when is a good time to go, how many people are there, or “hey i saw u there, gives a description, and asks the general site if he is there” Chances are…most men in my experience do not go on sites and go to the bathhouse.
Our bathhouse caters to a very very small percentage of the population. People are so ashamed to even; 1. be seen going to a gay bar, 2. being with another gay in public as people may assume you are gay by the company you keep, 3. are anti hookup as it is would never be seen walking into a bathhouse, 4. afraid that they would “know” someone at the bathhouse and be afraid they would be outted.
I have noticed that the people in our city who have wanted to go to the local bathhouse have done so already, have made their judgement of it and have gone back or stayed away, the others have never gone from shame and pre judgements and lastly out of towners keep the place afloat.
We all love the out of towners, they are there for a purpose….The ones who either stay the weekend and get as many loads as possible or come in, get off and leave.
I am a proponent of “do the deed and do your duty to suck off or be sucked off by an older man”. I do not go out of my way to follow my words but if the right man strikes me as a possible hookup age isn’t a factor. If you are not using a cane and can get hard, sure, lets go at it….A mouth is a mouth, even in a dark room.
That is not to say that, I once, followed a twinkish guy downstairs, found him in the corner of the dark room. Only lit by the red light of the emergency exit. He had a smooth hot body, I touched his rock hard chest and followed my hand down to his stomach and reaching for his crotch to find a hot boy cock. BUT to my surprise he had on underwear under his towel. There was no BULGE??? He had on smooth panties and a cunt. I touched my first pussy, over panties but still…..
SIGHS….
that is my story for now
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